Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Reflections on an Immigrantversary

Officially the longest hiatus in the Made in Reykjavik blog history. Leave it to me to write less after resolving to write more. There ya have it.

Tomorrow is my 5 year Immigrantversary. I moved to Iceland August 28th, 2008, so tomorrow makes five years. It feels significant. Probably for lots of reasons...it has flown by (of course) but so much has happened to me since that day I stepped on an Icelandair flight at SeaTac with two suitcases stuffed to the brims and headed for the cute one-bedroom apartment on Framnesvegur, it is hard to wrap my head around how much has changed.

For starters, there are all the major life-events that I seem to have plowed through like a steam engine within the past 5 year chunk of my life. I went to gradschool. Got married. Finished school. Had a kid. Then another one. Got a job. Grew up. Life-event wise, it has been a significant chunk, the past 5 years. It's fair to say that Iceland has been kind to me. Those big life-altering events make reflecting on the 5 year chunk all the more profound, since day-to-day life has such a vastly different shape than it did when I first moved here.

I know I have also changed in the past five years, but it is hard to put a finger on how. Living in a place with a different climate, culture, and language just changes a person. Interacting with people who speak English as a second language has altered the way I use my mother tongue. I've also gotten quieter. I don't think I was very loud before, but I know that my ignorance of the Icelandic language (though not as stark as it was 5 years ago) has forced me into an observer's role more than I would have been in the US. At parties or the lunch table or other occasions where folks are sitting around shooting the shit, I watch. I listen. Sometimes I speak up, but not as much as I want too. I'd like to think that this has helped me to understand people better, being forced by my ignorance to passively listen to conversation instead of actively participate. I find that when I am with other Americans, my speech gets louder and I laugh more. Maybe it's the language. Maybe it's a difference of culture (Icelanders are kind and funny, but not as wild, boisterous, or raunchy as Americans tend to be..or at least the way MY friends and family tend to be).

Another reason why it feels so significant is that when reflecting on the 5 year chunk of time, it is hard not to guess about what the next 5 years have in store for me. I can swallow the fact that they will likely not be quite as eventful as the past 5 have been, but I hold hope that they will be just as positive. It is kind of a daunting feeling to try and guess what life will be like in 5 years. It is hard to imagine that it will be exactly the same as it is now, but I see them taking place in Iceland. Probably.

If I had told myself 5 years ago what life would be like in 2013, I would have not been too surprised. Maybe about the whole 2 kids thing, but not all that surprised. Still, myself of 10 years ago probably wouldn't believe 2013-Me. I think the UW-bound 18 year old sorority girl would faint to hear about environmental science, a husband met on the bus, Iceland, and children. I guess I'll just have to check in again in 2018 and see how life is.

Hope I remember to blog between now and then.

(Oh, and as a side note, there are adorable child pictures from our recent US trip on the way. My computer is old...5 years now, since I bought it right before coming to Iceland! and it is time for a new machine. This old clunker can't upload pictures anymore...)


Monday, February 18, 2013

Once you wake up; life as an early bird

There's this problem I have. Well, It's not really a problem, it's just the way I am, I suppose. I can't sleep in. I've never been able to. Not the way most people I know can. I can sleep past an alarm, and some mornings I am not very enthusiastic to wake up, but that lasts a few minutes and then I am wide awake and there is no getting back to dreamland. I know some people (and sleep next to one every night) who would love nothing more than to sleep until noon everyday. Left to his own devices, Tumi's circadian rhythm would sink to going to sleep at 3am and waking up at noon, no problem. Our modern world is situated more around my schedule. I get sleepy and crabby after 10:30 and wake up bright eyed and bushy tailed at 6:45 or so.

I think this quark of mine is weird, and it is certainly weird in Iceland; a country that seems to be full to bursting with night owls. If you want an other-worldly experience, take a walk through downtown Reykjavik on Sunday morning at 9am. It is like a ghost town with confused tourists in hiking boots and matching parkas holding maps and trying to find an open coffee shop or something to do. My early-bird tendencies have led to some embarrassing social situations. People like to come over to our house for a visit (which is lovely) but they sometimes come over at an hour that would be unthinkable in Americaland. I have no recollection of house guests after 9pm when I was a kid. You didn't even call after 8:30. In Iceland, we have guests until 11 or midnight on a weeknight. It makes me feel like a boring, crabby 80 year old, and I do the worst possible thing a hostess can ever do and say "So nice to see you and catch up, but I have to sleep now, so goodnight!" to my lovely friends. I go to bed and leave Tumi to hang out with our guests. I like to think that they don't care, and that they've come to understand that this is just the way I am and I can't help it. Nobody comes over when I'm at my peak at 8am!

It is strange to think about how a person can be totally set in their ways at a very early age, but not really notice it until reflecting years later. I've always wanted to be an outgoing person. I've always imagined it would be so much fun to party and go to concerts and stay up all night and drink and have fun. Doesn't that all sound just wonderful? But I can't do it. I just don't have it in me, I think. I can count on one hand the number of times in my entire life I have been up past 4am (not tending to a baby). I have a vivid memory of life as an 18 year-old sorority girl in the U District on a Friday night. I had just made myself a hot herbal tea and was in my coziest PJs telling my beautiful sorority sisters to have fun and call me if they needed someone to come and walk them home. What a lame-ass. I was 18! I haven't changed. It just ain't my style, I guess.

This feeling of waking up and knowing you will not be able to sleep again has popped into my head in more life situations recently....It occurs to me that once you know something, or realize it to be true, you are awake to a new fact that you know you won't be able to un-know. Shaping your understanding of life, reality, your own place in existence, is a series of these small awakenings that makes us all who we are. For instance, I live in Iceland. I am often homesick an day dream about what life could be like if I were to move my family back to the Pacific Northwest. It is fun to imagine Elsa wearing shorts in the hot summer sun, or to picture Finnur running around in a big yard with a dog (we always have a big labrador in my American daydreams). And my loving parents, brothers, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and everyone I love who has been so important to me in shaping the person I am and the way I see the world; my kids could get to know all those wonderful and amazing people! If we're being honest, I daydream about an adult life in which I can smoke pot for fun, cuz it's legal now. I imagine the warm summertime and camping and hiking and big trees and my kids exploring tide pools in the San Juans.

But somehow I always wake up from my daydream because of the facts of everyday life in Iceland versus the US. Once I wake up to the practicalities of life here in Iceland, I simply can't honestly imagine moving back to the US. Health care accessibility, vacation from work, the playschool system, my 15 minute-walk commute, free (almost) University education, my 80% work schedule...Maybe someday it will feel right to leave this place, but not now. I'm awake, and there's no going back to sleep.

And now for cute kid pictures.

Two kids getting all cozy for our stroll!


They get better at sharing with one another everyday...


Finn can slide all by himself


And big sis is a pro!


Elsa can now "dwive the mouse" on my computer all on her own


Recent adventures at Kid Gym (Íþrottaskóli!)



Hoppa hoppa hop!



The kids decided it was time for a small break


She has remarkable balance


Finn needed some assistance with the somersaulting


My handsome boy


Elsa dressing up Barbara the doll in her clothes


Smiley kid!


And playing with the light-up pillow from Grandma and Grandpa. We love the patterns it makes on the wall and on our faces!



Sunday, January 20, 2013

What you do in Iceland in January


After December 21st or so, we can tell ourselves that the days are getting lighter, and spring is just around the corner. Which is true, actually. And when you live in a dim and cool place like Iceland, and the sun barley breaks the horizon for months and months, you have to tell yourself that bright green days are just around the corner. Oh, and you celebrate the hell out of the holidays. Lights everywhere, feasts everywhere, and fireworks like you can only try to describe to your unfortunate friends who have never made it to Iceland for New Year's Eve. 

We were fortunate enough this year to have a visit from a whole crew of Davidsons. My parents and brothers arrived between Christmas and New Year's and stayed the first week of January.  It was wonderful to have them for a visit in our winter wonderland. They even got a taste of the infamous Icelandic team handball!

Like all the other times, I feel like I don't have nearly enough time to write. Maybe I can New Year's resolve to blog more. Yea. On January 20th. Why not? Life here is exciting. There is always stuff going on, and it would be very nice to have a record or it somewhere for posterity. There you have it...I will try and blog more. Even about little stuff, because I know that we won't live the life of toddlers forever. 

Here are some images from our recent winter adventures!

Finn and Elsa coloring together. (Finn loves to throw the crayons on the floor...they bounce so nicely!)


Feasting with Elsa, Tumi and Finn!


Elsa all decked out for the handball game



Finnur Atli's new favorite place to sit.


Elsa María on her sheepskin


Gunnhildur building with Finn


Handsome boy all dressed up for Christmas


This is the face the kids make when watching the computer.


Ice cream for Finn


Amma helping Elsa with her puzzles


Tickle attack!


Holiday fun


Finnur decorated the Christmas tree




Elsa helping me bake. The Naked Chef?


Christmas is so cool!


Finn likes to play in the sink


Elsa's first attempt at making "laufabrauð"


Finn had some help from Tumi


And Daði is a pro



We made an "E"



Elsa got tap shoes from her Grandma!!!


And Barbara the doll....


 ...who is with her all the time nowadays.


Handball!


And snowy Reykjavik



Hamin' it in Harpa with my brothers




 New Year's Eve traditions with the fam!



New Year's Eve bonfire




The Boys in my town.



Granpa gets a hotdog. All is right with the world.


Making sad shoulders like the statue



Feeding the ducks





Olive fingers!



My kids won the Best Kids Ever In The Whole World prize.